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Colossians 3:1-11
"So if you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth, 3for you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4When Christ who is your life is revealed, then you also will be revealed with him in glory.
5Put to death, therefore, whatever in you is earthly: fornication, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed (which is idolatry). 6On account of these the wrath of God is coming on those who are disobedient.7These are the ways you also once followed, when you were living that life.
8But now you must get rid of all such things—anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive language from your mouth. 9Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have stripped off the old self with its practices10and have clothed yourselves with the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator. 11In that renewal there is no longer Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and free; but Christ is all and in all!"
Some of you may have heard of a man named Tom Shadyac. He’s
a movie director in LA, he’s directed movies like Ace Ventura Pet Detective,
Liar Liar, Patch Adams and Bruce Almighty, he was the subject of one of our
LifeTree CafĂ© sessions. He’s a pretty good example of Hollywood success and he
lived his life that way too. Plenty of things, plenty of money, plenty of focus
on himself. But Tom Shadyac might be more famous now for his dramatic lifestyle
change than for the movies he made. You see after a bike accident that left him
with what’s called a post-concussion syndrome where he continued to have
headaches and other health problems after the accident, he started to think
more deeply about his life, what he was doing with it and what needed to
change. And because of that, he walked away from a lot of his former life. Tom
now lives in a mobile home, he doesn’t have a lot of material possessions, he
doesn’t focus so much on money, himself or the earthly idea of success, and he
says he’s happier. He said to Oprah, "[We
have] a very extrinsic model of success. You have to have a certain job status,
a certain amount of wealth. ... I think true success is intrinsic. ... It's
love. It's kindness. It's community." He gave up his former
lifestyle, one that a lot of us would probably love to have and set his mind on
different things, on love, kindness and community.
The scripture reading for today is part of Paul’s letter to
the Colossians, and we have to imagine that their hearts and minds weren’t set
on the right things, probably somewhat like Tom. Otherwise Paul wouldn’t have
to tell them to, right? We can read between the lines and assume that this
church was having some problems with some specific things: fornication,
passion, impurity, evil, greed, anger, malice, wrath, slander, abusive language
and lying, but also that their minds, and I’d say their hearts, just weren’t
focused on the right things. He tells them to set their minds on things above
and not things on earth, he tells them to put to death the earthly things. He
tells them that they need to complete change their behavior, their perspective;
they need to change their hearts and minds.
Honestly
I have a hard time with the way that the Bible talks about change sometimes. It
seems like here, Paul is giving the Colossians a list of things not to do and
telling them to look a different direction as if that’s all there is to it.
It’s so much harder for me. Maybe we’ve really complicated things, maybe for
Paul and the Colossians all they really needed was self control and knowing
what they should and shouldn’t do. But man, it’s not that easy for me. I
remember so often Paul’s words in Romans 7 when he says “I do not understand my
own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing that I hate.”
We usually have an idea of what’s right and wrong, we usually know when we’re
doing something that God wouldn’t be happy about, but it is so easy to keep on
doing it. Especially with those sins that others might not see anything wrong
with, those sins that we can easily hide or rationalize: judging people,
gossip, not helping others, lying. So Paul is really calling the Colossians
out, and I guess as we read this we probably feel like he’s calling us out a
bit too. But what Paul is really calling the Colossians and us to do is to
change. To make a fundamental change in the way we behave, the way we think,
the way we operate, the way we look at the world. And I really wish he would
have given us a little more instructions, a little more information, a little
more to work with here. Paul, can you please tell us how to change?
There’s
actually a lot out there about how to change, how to make changes in our lives.
Just think about the numerous self-help books and website and personalities
that are completely focused on helping us change those parts of ourselves that
we don’t like. Whether it’s a physical characteristic, a destructive behavior
or a relationship, there are plenty of people ready to help us change, ready to
help us fix this problem. Some of you know that I studied social work before
starting here and a lot of social work has to do with helping clients change.
There are all types of therapeutic interventions to try to help the client
change his or herself, his or her thoughts and behaviors or his or her
environment. It’s a major part of the profession, so I think I’m supposed to
know more about it than I do. But anyway there are a lot of theories on how we
can help people change, how do people actually make healthy changes in their
lives. I promise not to bore you with a bunch of theories, so I’ll just bore
you with one. No, actually I found this really interesting in connection with
our scripture today.
Gestalt
is a German word for “essence or
shape of an entity's complete form” and Gestalt psychology comes out of
Berlin. So Gestalt psychology would say that whether we like it or not we’re
going to change, so it’s the job of the therapist to help facilitate positive
change and growth. And a big part of doing that is being aware of your whole
self, the positive and the negative. We have to be aware of who we are in our
environment, so we can make decisions and changes that get us where we want to
go. He might say that if we work so hard to suppress the parts of ourselves
that we don’t like, that we want to hide, then we can’t grow. The more we try
to be who we are not, the more we stay the same. Now I don’t take that to mean
that if we’re trying to be better people, better followers of Christ we won’t
get anywhere; I take it to mean that if we try to deny and suppress the ugly
parts of ourselves, if we try to hide our sin and pretend like we’re a new
creation anyway, we’re still just the same, the sin isn’t gone.
This
is a real important piece for me because I know how easy it is to just do the
superficial work. To just stop doing XYZ, especially in front of others. To
look like I’ve got my mind set on things above, by trying to suppress and
ignore my sinful tendencies. But do you know what that does to me? It actually takes
my eyes and my mind and my heart off of God. I start to be far more concerned
about what I do, or don’t do, or say or don’t say than where the focus of all
of my life, all of my being is. I actually become really focused on me. Do you
ever feel that way? Like you’re kind of split, you’re doing what you should,
but it still doesn’t feel right?
I
think what Paul’s on to here is that all of our whole selves have to make this
change, this shift to looking at things above. But that means we have to look
at our whole selves, all of the sin, all of the junk, we can’t ignore it or
suppress it. And while I really love social work and I think that it has great
potential to help us change and grow, I’ve always believed that it falls short,
that it inherently leaves out one really important thing, and that’s God. This
passage really begs the question, how do we change? How do we set our minds on
God? And there might be a lot of answers to that, but I think that the key is
in the last verse, it says “but Christ is all and in all.” Christ is all and IN
all. How do we change? How do we put to death the evil that lives in us, how do
we set our minds on what’s above? Christ. Christ working in and through us
through the Holy Spirit. Christ is all and he is in all, he is in every one of us.
It is us being open to and working with the Holy Spirit in our hearts and minds
that not only helps us to focus on the right things, but that slowly puts to
death, that softly kills the evil and sin in our lives.
So
how do we really do this, how do be put to death those parts of us that are
“earthly”? How do we set our minds on what’s above, on God, on God’s
priorities? Well clearly it’s not simple, but I want to suggest a few things, a
few tools that might help us as individuals and as a church. The first one I
don’t like so much, but I’m pretty convicted that it’s a part of living this
new life in Christ. And that’s Self-control, we have to be willing to
consciously change our behavior. To do loving things when we don’t feel loving.
To tell the truth when it’s going to get us in trouble. To keep our mouths shut
when we have some really juicy gossip. We have to actively struggle against our
tendencies to sin, we have to put that stuff to death, we have to work on killing
it. It’s overwhelming at times because we’re so prone to sin, but like
Gestalt’s theory of change would say we have to become more aware of it, we
have to begin to recognize the sin within ourselves so we can kill it.
I’m
going to being leading a group this fall about different ways to pray and one
prayer created by Ignatius Loyola is the prayer of examen. Every day you sit
with God and review your day, you thank God and ask God to show you those
places where you fell short. It sounds painful, until you realize that it’s
usually more painful to go on sinning. I invite you to come learn more about it
in that prayer group, but this isn’t just a plug for the group, it’s to
recognize that examining ourselves and becoming aware of our sin is an ongoing
process and a important part of Christian life. If you want more info about the
prayer of examen, I’ll put a link on the blog, or you can just come talk to me
any time, but I encourage you to think about it as a tool we have as Christians
to help us consciously change.
So
once we become aware of our sins, once we can point out when and where they’re
happening, we can begin the work of putting them to death, of killing them
through self control, through consciously trying to not do that which we hate.
Part
of the reason I’m not a big fan of pushing self control as the solution to our
problem is because we know that our sins run deeper than that. I know that we
can force ourselves to do loving things to someone we don’t like, but we still
don’t love them. The truth is that if we really love those people, we’ll do
loving things anyway, right. And isn’t that the point? So how do we get there?
How do we go past just doing the loving thing or just not doing the bad thing,
but to a changed heart where the right and loving thing comes most naturally? I’d
argue that self control can’t do that. This is where that key comes in, it’s
not just us working on ourselves, Christ is in us and through the work of the
Holy Spirit our hearts are being changed. The Holy Spirit is the one that
teaches us how to really love our enemy, who guides when we don’t know what to
do and who slowly works in our hearts to change them. If we ask and if we’re
open to it, the Holy Spirit will work in us, putting to death, killing softly those
parts of us that are what Paul calls earthly. We have to ask the Holy Spirit to
work in us and we have to give the Holy Spirit permission to basically kill a
part of us. The sin part, the hate part, the earthly parts. The writer of John
says in chapter 3, “He must increase and I must decrease.”
Christ is all and in all of us, Christ must increase and we must decrease. This
is the work of being a Christian, we have to work together with the Holy Spirit
so that we might be changed. We do the best we can from our end, but in the end
we have to turn to the Holy Spirit for the deep down life-giving change. My
prayer this week is the Holy Spirit does that, that we let Holy Spirit change
us and that God will continue to work with us to give us new life. Praise God,
Amen.